Thanks To You Wonderful People

Q&A

Thanks for the wonderful connections and support for the month of July. RESPECT and LOVE to YOU. I enjoyed the question and answer session and I hope you enjoyed it too. A special thanks to ALL of you who send question (s) which allowed me to share something specific. I still have 2 questions to answer and I will be answering them over the next day or so. For ALL those who viewed, liked, shared, reblog and comment or all the above, I want you to know that your participation, greatly appreciated.

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Question 29: What Do You Do When Things Seem To Be Going All Wrong?

VolunteeringQuestion 28: What do you do when things seem to be going all wrong?

Be mindful of the fact that, not everyone has walked the same pathway to their success.

This question was the fourth question that I had received but said to myself that I wanted to answer it at the end of the month. My reason was that it was my experience last year when I move to Atlanta. It may not have been obvious but, everything at one point seemed as if I made a wrong decision to quit my job and move here. However, I do pay close attention to my feelings because to me, that’s how God speak to me and nothing about moving felt wrong at the time when I decided that I was going to move. Things started off real slow and the plan that was made was not going as planned. The journey for me here started off with me sleeping on the floor at the house that was rented to get our business off the ground and start making some money. After a few months of no real progress I had to shift gear to make things happen and by this time I was out of all the money that I brought with me. I prayed and asked God why he didn’t let me know that things are not going to go as I was planning and after many days of asking there was a voice in my head saying, “You’ll see”.

My focus shifted immediately and my intention became more intentional. I took the road on and start showing up at business places and knocking on doors. I tried selling a few of my posters and was lucky on one occasion. Then I said to myself it cannot get any worst until I showed off at my friend’s office to ask about the posters he promised that he was going to purchase. It seemed as if I was been a bother so I decided to not ask again. I didn’t quit because that’s not my modus of operandi. In fact, I have learned something valuable while I was doing sales at the job I quit to move here and it goes like this, some will, some won’t, so what. Move to the next and remember, what doesn’t kill you make you stronger. Despite the challenges I was going through I kept the faith on the possibility on things working out and I believed that something equal or greater was on its way.

As I have mentioned in the beginning of the piece that not everyone have walked the same pathway to their success. Despite the bumps in the road, the mishaps I had faith; I believe and still was confident. I say all that to show you the value of one thing and if things are not going as planned for you even with you being qualified, I recommend that you volunteer. Yes, it was VOLUNTEERING that helped me to secure a job that I had never thought of doing. I am enjoying it. It was from me volunteering at the city court I met a gentleman who recently retired and who had more than over 30 years of working at the college system. From that connection I landed the job as a professor and it’s a job that I look forward to doing every day. Being a professor at Atlanta Metropolitan State College gave me a new perspective on life and at the same time I get to do what I am passionate about and that is to empower others and be an inspiration. It doesn’t even feel like work. So this is what happened when you volunteer your time, especially if it is something that you care about.

The benefits from volunteering are great. If you don’t believe me, try it. From volunteering:

You get a change to gain VALUABLE experience and build new relationships that can direct you to your next big opportunity.

You are exposed to more direct OPPORTUNITIES you would miss if you just sit at home which may cause to feel lonely and distress.

You get an opportunity to LEARN while you are waiting on what you really want to do.

You get a chance to UTILIZE your abilities in a meaningful way as who you are helping benefits greatly.

You get an opportunity to NETWORK with others who may have more connections, more experienced than you. More often than not there will be individuals who are able to point you in the right direction.

You get valuable work experience to TAKE with you, which makes your possibility of landing the job you want even greater.

You ESCAPE being stuck at home which sometimes lead to boredom, depression, self-doubt and stinking thinking (negative thinking).

You feel more EMPOWERED because you are doing something purposeful and when you are doing something purposeful your life in turn feels meaningful.

You REAP from what you sow, the mere fact that you are giving, you must know that you are winning.

I have faith. I believe in the possibility. I am confident in what I can do, but in volunteering you forget self and a whole new passage way open up for you. In fact, volunteering as both intrinsic and extrinsic value. You get to feel good by your giving and you’ll get a blessing from your giving. I have made some good connections from volunteering and if you feel as if nothing is going for you, it’s time to step out and give what you can offer to someone else. Remember, you don’t know where your breakthrough is going to come from.

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Question 28: How Do You Know When It’s Time To Evaluate Your Position In Life?

Evaluation

Question 28: How do you know when it’s time to evaluate your position in life?

“Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life.” ― Shannon L. Alder

Doing an evaluation will give you clarity. On this journey we call life there are going to be times when things don’t go as planned. However, doing an evaluation is not only for when things are not going as we have planned. Through evaluation we can see how much progress we have made in or on the task we set out to do. It also let us know if we are not making any progress. In fact, when we evaluate ourselves and along with clarity we get direction on what to do next. So, how do you know when it time to do an evaluation?

These are the top 5 moments when you should perform a evaluation:

  • When you have an unexpected obstacle. For example, your competition launch something new, get fired from a job or your significant other get up and leave.
  • Before embarking on something new. You want to see if you have the necessary resources your need ahead of time, so you can know if you are prepared for your new venture.
  • When you reach a mile stone. You want to see how well you did, how you could improve for your next around and how you could help someone else to reach the same level of accomplishment.
  • When you feel stagnant. Feeling stagnant is a great time to do an evaluation so you can have clarity on what maybe the cause. Also, to see if you have made any worthwhile progress even though you may feel stuck. Either way it will give you a platform from which to move forward.
  • If you have set for yourself a schedule. Stick to your schedule. So, if it is quarterly, every six months, yearly, on the new year or your birthday you should stick with your schedule so you can know where you stand in regards to what you want to accomplish.

Remember, evaluation give clarity on what you have set out to accomplish, because at this time you have to step back and look from the outside in. Evaluation is like being the spectator at a game, you see plays the players don’t see even when the play is right in front of there eyes. Therefore, it’s good to be your own spectator at times.

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Question 27: How Do You Activate Your Inner Greatness?

InnerGreatnessQuestion 27: How do you activate your inner greatness?

You are more than and better than what you think you are.

On the onset of wanting more out of life I had doubts and lack the belief to what was possible. Alongside that, fear had a hold on me which prevented me from acting on what I was capable of doing/giving. One of the good things about my life is that I had the feeling that I am supposed to do more with my life. But the said thing was that, I could not find the courage to TRUST the feeling that was singing out to me, which was indicating to me that I was capable of living and not just existing. With all the indication that I was getting, I had failed my exams which I believed was the indication to what was possible. That made the doubts get even stronger and I almost throw in the towel to what was possible.

The truth is we all are capable of doing more than we are doing.

I wanted to believe that I could but I didn’t TRUST the feeling. Like me, what some of us do is we build walls around our own existence by blaming, finding excuses doubting our abilities and then wonder why such false belief often grab hold of what is possible. To activate ones inner greatness is not by chance but by choice. One of the biggest killers to activating our inner greatness is compare ourselves to others. DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF.

Take the leap of FAITH and know that:

You can activate your inner greatness by acting on your burning desire. You don’t want to be wondering later on in life “what if” you have act upon that burning desire what could have manifested.

You can activate your inner greatness by committing yourself to your burning desire so you can see it through. Without you being committed you may stop before what you are capable of take root.

You can activate your inner greatness by trusting the feeling you have of possibility. Don’t worry too much of NOT getting it right on your first try. Even the best technologies and inventions have been tweaked several times after we first get to use them.

You can activate your inner greatness by insisting on being proactive with your decision making. Sometimes when you think too much or too long on doing something worthwhile with your life you sometimes end up doing nothing.

You can activate your inner greatness by visualization. You can tap into the infinite possibility by mentally probing for ideas or seeking answers to something you want to accomplish.

You can activate your inner greatness by asking yourself purposeful questions. When you do, you give the mind something constructive to work on. 

You can activate your inner greatness by taking the time to quite the mind. A greater purpose to life can come when you are in communion with God. Be still and activate your inner greatness!

You can activate your inner greatness by expecting that more is available to your current existence. If you believe that there is more to life and even if you are fearful now, at some point in your life you may muster the courage to act on what you believe.

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Question 26: How Can You Override The Destructive Verbal Conditioning Learned As A Child?

Override the Destructive ConditionngQuestion 26: How can you override the destructive verbal conditioning learned as a child?

“The reflection of the current social paradigm tells us we are largely determined by conditioning and conditions.”
― Stephen R. Covey

Our homes have a job to do. We have a choice on how we want to condition the mind of our kids. For one, don’t let them lose their inner child by conditioning them wrongfully. We must let the way we verbally condition our kids be uplifting, empowering, encouraging, as we must remind them daily of their abilities and not what they cannot do. Don’t assume that a child can’t, because children tend to believe what they are told repeatedly.

We are all exposed to verbal conditioning. Now, let’s break the question down in small pieces, by defining the main words. Let’s start with override, which is to put something else in place for what you want to change. Destructive is that which does not serve you in a positive way. Verbal is the expression through words. Conditioning can either be rewarding or harmful but it’s an act that is performed over a period of time which they become a natural part of your physic.

If home is the beginning of the conditioning process, we can then instill greatness in our kids early on in life. What do you think?

Ingrained behaviors/habits become a part of us through conditioning and to break the destructive ones it will take some time. On that note, you MUST be willing to do what it will take to override the destructive verbal conditioning and that can be done by using constructive self-suggestion. You will have to change what you are saying to yourself, but you will have to be fully conscious of what you want to change. With that being said, to override the destructive verbal conditioning you will have to:

  • Change the negative self-talks to positive self-talk. I can instead of I can’t.
  • Observe your own behavior; replace what you would want to stop doing with what you would want to start doing.
  • Nurture the already good habits. What you spend time on will develop and eventually get stronger.
  • Decide that the limiting belief you currently hold of yourself is not true.

Some habits of ineffectiveness are rooted in our social conditioning toward quick-fix, short-term thinking. -Stephen R. Covey

  • Initiate the first move towards personal development. It may take some time but you are on your way once you gain the courage to start and that’s what is important.
  • Train your thought process to think differently. As Albert Einstein said that no problem can be solved with the same level of thinking that created them.
  • Insist on practicing your new way of thinking every day until it becomes a part of your psychic. Read good books and listen to audios.
  • Own up to what you want to change. You will not change a habit that you are afraid to confront.
  • Note your progress. It’s good to know that you are improving and in the progress in builds your confidence.

Once we know that limiting beliefs are part of the conditioning that we all were exposed to, we’ll start the process of reversing that belief by being constructive in our thinking.

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