Question 20: How Do You Get Things Done When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed?

OverwhelmedQuestion 20: How do you get things done when you are feeling overwhelmed?

It is okay to dream big dreams. It is okay to think big. However, doing so can make you feel overwhelmed. What can happen when you are feeling overwhelmed? Being overwhelmed can put brakes on the progress that you want to make in life. I have been there myself looking on several things that I want to get done and I know a lot of people have had the same feeling too. What I now know is that things can still get done, but some things have to change in order to get the result needed.

The first thing you want to do is step away for a moment! When you are feeling overwhelmed is to good take some time to breathe- be still and quite the mind for a moment. That is, moving away from things you are currently engaged in. Doing so can put you back in control of what you plan to. Importantly, it gives clarity on what action you can take next without having that cumbersome feeling.

The second thing you want to do is make yourself a plan – prioritize the thing you want in order of how you want to get them done. Make sure when they are in order they are in order of importance. When what you want to get done is in the order of importance you can focus on a specific thing to see that it is completed before going to the next. Doing so also put you in control and not the things you want to get them.

The third thing you want to do is execute the plan you have made in steps. As you have heard a journey begins with a single step. If you are able to do what you say you are going to do in steps and it is okay to start with the simplest, then move your way up to the more difficult on the list. Remember, getting things done will motivate you to continue. Executing in the order of what you have set gives you control over what you need to get done.

The fourth thing you want to do is lessen the work load. Remember no man is an island and no man stands alone. Having too much to do at once will not distract you but will weaken your ability to focus on a specific task and it won’t be done to the best of your ability.

The fifth thing you want to do is ask for help and allow the help. Having some help will lessen the overwhelming feeling. ASK, ASK, AND ASK. Asking for help can be hard but feeling stuck is a worse feeling in my book. So, ask for the help and lessen the pressure on yourself.

The sixth thing you can do is change your environment. Sometimes our environment can make us feel overwhelmed especially if your environment is toxic. So, getting out of your current environment into a new environment can give you a greater feeling and can even open your creativity? Change of environment can also trigger new thoughts and help to clarify things that you have had problems with for a long time.

The seventh thing you should take note of is- do you have a need for perfection. You have to know that you don’t have to be perfect to start taking action. If you should read about the successful you can see that they have made mistakes. That is to say, you don’t have to know everything about what you want to take action on, before you start take action. All learning is a process.

The overwhelming feeling comes from not having control over what you want to get done. But, we can still get things done even when we are feeling overwhelmed, but we have to change how we have been going at it in the first place.

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Question 19: What Are Some Effective Ways Of Helping People To Embrace Change Especially In The Organization?

Question 19: What are some effective ways of helping people to embrace change especially in the organization?

The only constant in life is change. Words of Rachel Wolchin, “if we were meant to stay in one place, we’d have roots instead of feet.” So, change is a must and being stagnant is not for us. With that being said, to help someone embrace change especially in the organization I believe it is to let them know that getting better/ahead is not by chance, but by change. In fact, to embrace change can be hard in it’s initial stage, but to be forced by change to change will even be harder. As Jack Welch said, “Change before you have to.”

So how do we help others to embrace change:

Helping people to embrace change is to educate them on the value of embracing change, because it’s constant and how important their effort will be on putting their best foot forward to make things work.

Another way to help people embrace change is to empower them. They can be empowered by the inquiring about their well-being, being appreciative of their effort and identifying with them. If people feel left out especially in the time of change they’ll lose the drive to put their best foot forward. Through empowerment they will feel appreciated and in turn more compel to accept the change.

In an organization the leader should engage in the process of the change and not stay to one side and give command. When the leaders are involved with the process they can exemplify their positive outlook on the change that will be taken place in the organization through their enthusiasm. If the leaders can be enthused about change the others will feel more compel to embrace change.

You can also help people to embrace change by energizing their thoughts. That is, talking about the positive impact that change can bring to the table. When you energize their thoughts you’ll get them to focus on the positive that can come from the change. Furthermore, through positive focus they’ll be more apt to embrace change that facilitates personal growth.

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Question 18: How Do You Grow From A Stigma That Affects Your Social Identity?

StigmaQuestion 18: How do you grow from a stigma that affects your social identity?

I will boldly say that you should not let what someone says about you, your social class or any group that you belong to, stop you from being productive in life.

The most important thing regarding you and a stigma is that you can choose to disassociate yourself from it or their opinion of it, especially if it doesn’t compliment the image you want to portray in life. Also know that others will have something to say about the group or social class that they are not associated with. Will you make their opinion stop you from living?

To define stigma, according to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, it is a set of negative and often unfair beliefs that a society or group of people have about something.

Those unfair or negative beliefs could be about your group or class but if you look carefully around you, you’ll see that others still thrive and make the best of their lives despite stigmas others try to place on them. That is to say, you can too. Just remember that a stigma is not who you are. It is just someone’s opinion.

Our social identity comes from the groups that we associate ourselves with or are members of.

Our social identity and self-concept play a critical role in how productive we are in living our lives to the utmost. Therefore, if the group that you identify with helps with building your self-image and self-esteem, there is no reason why you should let the label of someone on the outside hinder your progress.

So, grow from the stigma by believing in yourself despite the labels that are placed upon you. Remember, there are people of similar groups and associations who have become who they want to be despite the opinions of others.

Two, you must respect yourself. Although you are a part of a group you must know that you have your own unique qualities and abilities that can help you make the advancements that you desire in life.

Three, don’t let the outside noise overpower you. You’ll be classified regardless of your group, but you still have the choice of being productive.

Sometimes we hold ourselves hostage by the stigma others place on us and also the stigma we place on others.

If we can look deeply in our own lives, we’ll see that we all have some growing up to do. Let’s be better than the person we were yesterday.

Have you had to overcome stigmas in your life? If so, how did you do it?

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Question 17: How Do You Bounce Back?

How do you bounce back-Question 17: How do you bounce back?

We fall at times and sometimes when we are on the ground we contemplate to ourselves, how are we going to get back in the game of life and continue going after what we have already started. Bouncing back can be challenging, but I believe that we have the ability to bounce back. Let’s see how we can get back on our feet and go at it again.

  • Believe that you can
  • Own up to your mistakes
  • Understand that there is a lesson to be learned
  • Never start a pity party
  • Clear from your mind the word CAN’T
  • Explore your options

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” Mahatma Gandhi

  • Be true to yourself
  • Accept the fall. Know that a fall is not that you have failed. Now, keep moving!
  • Call on a friend for a positive reinforcement
  • Know that your fall serves a platform NOT a prison.

“Do not wait: the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.” Napoleon Hill

You have it in you to bounce back!

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Question 16: How Do You Deal With Life’s Stressful Situations?

Question 16. How do you deal with life’s stressful situations?

Take a break!

We all have different ways of dealing with stress and we are not all stressed by the same things in life. Taking care of small kids could be stressful for one person and a joy for another. Therefore, the situations vary. While working in the behavioral health field for over 2 years and working with individuals who needed assistance to find ways to cope with stressful situations gave me the opportunity to broaden my knowledge on the subject. Through my experience and what I have read, stress is when you feel like you are under pressure or have tension when dealing with life’s stressful situations. I want to make it clear that you can also feel stress from doing something you love to do. To that effect, I was listening to the May edition of Success Magazine where Brendan Brazier, a former pro Ironman triathlete, said that we also have healthy stress. To paraphrase, he said healthy stress is when you benefit from the stress. For instance, exercising may make you feel stress, but a fitter and healthier body will be the end result. Good trade, wouldn’t you say?

God didn’t do it all in one day.  What makes me think I can?  ~Author Unknown

You can use these techniques when you are in stressful situations:

I’ll start with what I would consider the easiest, breathing. Breathing will relax you and clear your mind. Before you go any further, take at least 10 deep breaths, slowly inhaling and exhaling and see how you feel. Isn’t it relaxing?!

You can use writing or journaling as a stress relieving mechanism. When you journal it helps you get your feelings out on paper and helps you think through the feelings you are going through.

Physical activity is also a good way to deal with life’s stressful situations. When exercising, the body produces what they call endorphins. Endorphins are feel-good chemicals that improve our moods and lessen our chance of falling into depression. Another good thing about exercise is that it strengthens your heart. Let’s get moving!

Play a sociable game that you love. Playing dominoes with friends takes my mind away from my daily activities and at the same time helps me to relax. You consider where you go to play the game your chill spot. At the chill spot you normally set your mind at ease. What games do you enjoy playing? Get some friends or go by your friends’ place and get the game going. When you change your atmosphere you can change your mood.

Music does it for me. Music is a good way to alleviate stress. Put some music on, music that you love to dance to or just to sing out aloud. Whatever music you choose to listen to, it can do wonders. Try it. Turn the radio up loud if you can and sing or dance the time away.

Don’t let your daily situations suck you in, take time to breathe, go for a walk and take in some fresh air, get some friends and do something you enjoy doing. In life we are going to feel stress at some point, but don’t let the stress overpower you if you can do something about it. Sometimes if we just use the methods that are free to us, we can prevent some of life’s serious issues.

If the situation is too much for you to bear, seek professional help!

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